My struggle to go natural

Whenever I’ve blogged or spoken about going natural, I’ve always said that my only regret is that it took me so long to do it because I thought about it for a year before I actually took the leap. Well I lied.

A friend recently reminded me of a pyjama party we had where we were trying all kinds of tricks to turn my relaxed hair curly – back in 2009! This mostly involved using heaps of conditioner on my very wet hair in the hope that it would ‘shrink’ & curl along with various scrunching techniques.


2009 – trying to create curls on my wet, freshly washed & conditioned hair. As you can see in this picture, I’m sans make up & sans curls.

I even bought a diffuser attachment for my beloved Parlux hair dryer. These tricks had my hair looking ok-ish & curly when wet but when it dried oh gosh when it dried it was one thick bush – not a curl in sight. I even went to work with this hot mess for 1/2 weeks & colleagues had kind words but what they didn’t know was that I was in the bathroom every 2 hours spritzing water & conditioner on  just to keep it under control. Of course it didn’t last (thankfully) & before long I booked myself in for a relaxer. Relief.


Still 2009 – things didn’t get much better once my relaxed ‘curls’ dried. I really tried!

Now 2009 was way before I even heard of a blog & the word ‘natural’ to me back then conjured up images of herbs & all things homeopathic. The truth is I sought advice from various hairdressers – I couldn’t think of anywhere else to go. Whenever I was in a mall & a salon looked quiet, I’d pop in & all they did was recommend various curling creams & well, diffusers. That’s what landed me in this situation. Why I even walked into these salons to ask for help I don’t know – desperation perhaps because the only ethnic hair they had seen was that of the lady’s making the tea in the salon.

Each one of them sold me a different product (& I’m not talking cheap stuff – its lead to quite a predicament) & I’d hurry home only to be disappointed. All. Over. Again. In retrospect I don’t think they knew any better although I felt completely frustrated & sabotaged!

Here’s what I wish someone had the sense to tell me four years ago (FOUR YEARS AGO!!!!): Once you relax your hair you have permanently altered its chemical make up. You can argue that the straightness fades over time but it’s not reversible. You can transition for a while if you prefer (i.e. let your natural hair grow out while you keep your lengths relaxed for a bit) but eventually the relaxed hair needs to be cut off. That’s the simple truth. And in 4 years no one could/would tell it to me.

Yes, you live & learn but I can’t help think how far along my fro would be now if I’d done the big chop 4 years ago. Anyway, I’ll keep myself focused on the fact that I’m now only weeks away from the 1 year anniversary of my big chop 🙂 Yes, time has flown & all those other clichés are true but it’s also true that I’m impatient, so dear hair – hurry up & grow!

If you missed my last hair update at nine months post big chop, check it out here.

Be kind to your hair!


About Wisaal

Reformed shopaholic. Unapologetic perfectionist. Trainee mama bear. Severe OCD. Cat person.
This entry was posted in my fro and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to My struggle to go natural

  1. Wisaal, this is so incredibly entertaining and truthful. Your curls now are gorgeous! happy growing 🙂

  2. I find natural hair so much more appealing than relaxed or processed hair, but hey, to each his own. Going natural is a BIG step and kudo’s to you for being able to do it and share it with us 🙂

  3. Thanks Kavuli & Suaad, I’m getting there!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s